Love is a great thing right?
But some love is disastrous. Like for example, you saw him/her kissing another girl/guy right infront of you and he KNOWS you are there, or that you are stuck between your best friend and your love partner. Humans can do without love, but at the same time, they also can't do without it. It's complicated, but love would always be there, if there is hatred. It is similar to the concept of that there will surely be a bad guy in this would because even though there is no more gamblers or smokers or murderers, the ones that has more disadvantages than the other humans would be classified as a bad guy, so unless everyone has the same appearance, same gender, same personality and everything about everyone is the same which isn't a great thing, there would always be the good and the bad.
Anyway here are :
5 tips on how to maintain your relationship
1. Give the guy/girl too little attention and they'll probably leave you after been lonely and depressed for a while. Listen to them and communicate with them as communication in relationships is VITAL.
2. If you are the kind that talks about all your troubles [ I do meant ALL, from small ones like how you broke your pen to major ones ], STOP. It's great to talk about troubles to your partner but dicussing about your problems is not equal to complaining. It's frustrating that he/her have to deal with other people's troubles and his/her own ones too, during a long-term relationship which is what you wanted, right?
3. Be calm until you really understand the whole truth. If you heard rumours about your girl/boyfriend flirting with other people, and that unless you have seen them together with your own eyes AND behaving in a intimate behaviour, DO NOT stomp up to them and ask for a break up or start a fight. Listen to their explanations and judge them calmly and correctly. Trust is also vital too. [ If it really is them cheating, well, do whatever you want, but don't feel depressed as it's really their fault, not yours - sounds cliche, I know ]
4. Accept your partner's shortcomings is good enough, but if there is really something you cannot stand it about him/her, talk about it to your partner because, she/he needs to know.
5. Lastly, if previously you think that ' I'll die if I don't get to be with him/her ' but now you don't, it's not really the end of your relationship with him/her. It doesn't means that this is the end. It meant that this is the beginning. The beginning of the love that is built on trust, honest, and communication. This is the love that survives good times and bad, that gives you reassurance that your partner will be there for you, even when you`re feeling like you're going to go crazy because of sadness.
Well, but if you really broke up with him/her in the end, or that now you're trying to forget about your recent failed relationship, you can go out with your friends for movies, or chat with your online friends if you're lazy or thinks that you look like a freak now because of the crying [ which actually make-up could do the trick ] so you would know that you're not alone and you have other people that cares for you too. And the most important thing is after drowning your sorrows by drinking or drowning your friends with your sorrows, face it. You definately could not forget about this relationship, so just remember the good times you had with him/her. When you tend to think about him/her, think about the good times. Think about how happy you were with him/her [ but don't think about ' but now... ' and those crap ] and think that these all times that you both had together is a good memory and that maybe now you're not together anymore, but you had those memories with him/her. Those happy memories and then think about these for 1 minute, the maximum[ or you would sure ponder to the ' why did it end like this ' type of questions ]. Then get on back to your life.
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End of discussion and all I can type out is 5 basic tips. I mean, I'm still inexperienced, seriously. So if that didn't help you all at all, I'm sorry. [ And why am I thinking that the tips I gave for dealing with break-ups are better then the ones of not getting your relationship crushed?! ]
But some love is disastrous. Like for example, you saw him/her kissing another girl/guy right infront of you and he KNOWS you are there, or that you are stuck between your best friend and your love partner. Humans can do without love, but at the same time, they also can't do without it. It's complicated, but love would always be there, if there is hatred. It is similar to the concept of that there will surely be a bad guy in this would because even though there is no more gamblers or smokers or murderers, the ones that has more disadvantages than the other humans would be classified as a bad guy, so unless everyone has the same appearance, same gender, same personality and everything about everyone is the same which isn't a great thing, there would always be the good and the bad.
Anyway here are :
5 tips on how to maintain your relationship
1. Give the guy/girl too little attention and they'll probably leave you after been lonely and depressed for a while. Listen to them and communicate with them as communication in relationships is VITAL.
2. If you are the kind that talks about all your troubles [ I do meant ALL, from small ones like how you broke your pen to major ones ], STOP. It's great to talk about troubles to your partner but dicussing about your problems is not equal to complaining. It's frustrating that he/her have to deal with other people's troubles and his/her own ones too, during a long-term relationship which is what you wanted, right?
3. Be calm until you really understand the whole truth. If you heard rumours about your girl/boyfriend flirting with other people, and that unless you have seen them together with your own eyes AND behaving in a intimate behaviour, DO NOT stomp up to them and ask for a break up or start a fight. Listen to their explanations and judge them calmly and correctly. Trust is also vital too. [ If it really is them cheating, well, do whatever you want, but don't feel depressed as it's really their fault, not yours - sounds cliche, I know ]
4. Accept your partner's shortcomings is good enough, but if there is really something you cannot stand it about him/her, talk about it to your partner because, she/he needs to know.
5. Lastly, if previously you think that ' I'll die if I don't get to be with him/her ' but now you don't, it's not really the end of your relationship with him/her. It doesn't means that this is the end. It meant that this is the beginning. The beginning of the love that is built on trust, honest, and communication. This is the love that survives good times and bad, that gives you reassurance that your partner will be there for you, even when you`re feeling like you're going to go crazy because of sadness.
Well, but if you really broke up with him/her in the end, or that now you're trying to forget about your recent failed relationship, you can go out with your friends for movies, or chat with your online friends if you're lazy or thinks that you look like a freak now because of the crying [ which actually make-up could do the trick ] so you would know that you're not alone and you have other people that cares for you too. And the most important thing is after drowning your sorrows by drinking or drowning your friends with your sorrows, face it. You definately could not forget about this relationship, so just remember the good times you had with him/her. When you tend to think about him/her, think about the good times. Think about how happy you were with him/her [ but don't think about ' but now... ' and those crap ] and think that these all times that you both had together is a good memory and that maybe now you're not together anymore, but you had those memories with him/her. Those happy memories and then think about these for 1 minute, the maximum[ or you would sure ponder to the ' why did it end like this ' type of questions ]. Then get on back to your life.
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End of discussion and all I can type out is 5 basic tips. I mean, I'm still inexperienced, seriously. So if that didn't help you all at all, I'm sorry. [ And why am I thinking that the tips I gave for dealing with break-ups are better then the ones of not getting your relationship crushed?! ]
2 comments:
Very useful..
But I single...
No use de...
Hahahahas....
Meiling - Lols, haha, yeah nice point.
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